Divorce and Separation
Center for Advice
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Divorce and Separation
Centre for Advice
A problem shared is a problem halved things always seem better after talking them through with someone else. Remember things will not always be like this, and they will get better. In time you will get used to these changes
Your parents breaking up will probably feel like the end of the world, you will be experiencing a mixture of feelings including, anger, sadness, loneliness, confusion, both your emotions and feelings will change many times.
It is quite usual, that more than anything you just want your parents to get back together and you are hoping that the separation is just something temporary.
If you parents were arguing constantly and there was a lot of unhappiness in your household, then maybe you will be experiencing a sense of relief and possibly even happiness. Even in these cases, there will still be various emotions along this journey.
It is quite natural to feel worried when your parents break up, but you should ask them to explain things to you, as this will help you with you to understand how they feel.
There will be times when there are certain things your parents will not want to discuss with you, this is not them hiding the truth from you, but more a case of they feel it will be best to discuss these matters with you at a more suitable time
You are still loved very much by both of your parents and it is important that you remember that none of this is your fault. Sometimes you will not be able to see one of your parents until contact arrangements have been made by the courts or they may be living separately doesn’t mean they don’t love you, this is just one of the many processes involved.
Whatever your concerns are, first of all talk your parents, if you have older brothers or sisters they too can often help to explain things to you. Other people you could confide with include members of your family, grandparents, uncles, aunts even family friends. The golden rule here, is if something doesn’t feel right, then talk it through with someone.
Other children in your class or friends at school may have experience when their parents separated and this is something you could discuss with them. Talk to your teachers they will always listen and can often give you useful information give you additional support and advice.
Most children in time learn to accept that their parents getting divorced were actually the best course of action for everyone.
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Just because one of your parents is not living with you, that does not mean they are no longer going to be a part of your life.
